Posted on September 16th, 2013 | Filed under Challenges, Community, Featured, Interfaith, Intra-Faith, Leadership, Learning, Theology
Tagged with Christian-Muslim dialogue, Dialogue, Iran, Mennonite, Shiite
Not long ago I was in a conversation where we were brainstorming about a potential dialogue when my Muslim colleague surprised me by saying “I heard that Dr W (name withheld) is a lesbian, so don’t invite her to the dialogue, because we only want people who accept the normative Christian beliefs.” I responded by saying that Dr. W has never told me she is a lesbian but it bothered me that I didn’t say more. I wanted to point out that we don’t tell him who he can and cannot invite to dialogue with us from the Muslim context he represents. I wanted to ask why he thought he could decide for us Christians who was “normative” in our tradition, or not. I wanted to ask him why he thought he could know in advance who was going to be of value to him as a dialogue partner or not.
In another dialogue planning context, planning for an event involving “Abrahamic religions”, Judaism, Christianity and Islam, the question was raised as to why Aboriginal voices were not being invited to the dialogue table at this event. The answer given was that it muddied the waters, since “they” were not of the Abrahamic religions. Seriously? I wondered to myself. Do aboriginals only have a valid voice at the table when they are there to represent Aboriginal spiritualities? Did they mean to imply that an Aboriginal Christian has no voice at the interfaith dialogue table?
In yet a third dialogue planning context, the question of who were the ideal participants to be invited for that dialogue was raised. This time it was a question of whether to invite academics of a religion that also practiced that religion, or the religious leaders within a given religious tradition. Because of the topic, some of the group felt it was important to have the academic leaders, as long as they were believers, others opted for the academics who knew the most about the topic to be discussed, and yet others thought that involving the leaders from the faith communities would be the most important, since the results of the discussion could then have the possibility for a wider dissemination and influence in the community.
Several years ago I had been part of planning a dialogue between Mennonite Christians and Shi’ite Muslims from Iran. Our criterion for who could participate was limited by those people who had already been involved in the two previous academic dialogues we had held together. Recognizing that our Canadian context had many of us living side by side, but not really knowing one another, we wanted to create a way to invite our local communities to participate. We envisioned doing this through a public panel, where our dialogue story could be told together, and then by inviting observers from the local communities to attend and listen in to our already decade-long conversation. But some members of the wider community in Canada, upon receiving an invitation to observe our dialogue, objected to who we were in dialogue with. They objected to the notion that those people could adequately represent Shi’ism at the dialogue table [ implying that those contesting the dialogue could decide for us who/what is “normative”] and they judged both our and our dialogue partners as having the wrong motivations for dialogue [implying they were in a position to know best for us all]. By the time the dialogue event took place we were forced to meet under police protection and the public panel was shut down by the police because of the aggressive hostility of the protestors in the audience towards our dialogue guests. When the next round of dialogues took place in Iran, the public was again invited to observe. Indeed, even women were allowed into a facility that normally only men are allowed in to. No one contested our right, as Mennonites, to represent a Christian voice at the dialogue table. No one challenged our motivations, as North Americans, for engaging in the dialogue there. On the whole we encountered curiosity, deep listening, engaged questions, a dialogical spirit and built relationships that continue to go both ways.
In another context criteria for dialogue were defined to me this way, “like talks to like.” I find myself resistant to that approach. Globalization among other things increasingly puts us in contact with different people and different ideas. Disagreements are inevitable. Fostering a dialogue culture that avoids deep disagreements by limiting who we are “allowed” to dialogue with will only increase our problems. We cannot learn constructive ways of dealing with conflict if we only talk to those we agree with, or with those who we have decided in advance are acceptable dialogue partners.
Does accountability to our larger community context mean they get to decide in advance who valid dialogue partners for us are? Should there be specific criteria for deciding who can be at a given dialogue table, or criteria that eliminate certain partners from being at the table? Do participants in interfaith dialogue self-select, or do the inviting partners get to decide who can represent the other? Who gets to decide who will sit at the dialogue table?
I am a PhD candidate at the Toronto School of Theology - Emmanuel College at the University of Toronto. In addition to my current research in Christian Peace Theology and the Theology of Religions I teach, participate in and organize Interfaith dialogue events. I have an MDiv and a ThM in New Testament and have found leading Scriptural Reasoning groups a meaningful way of connecting with people, building community, and learning about how scripture shapes lives and gives meaning to people. I have served in different capacities as a pastor, chaplain and a cultural exchange program coordinator. Some of my writing includes "Interfaith friendship as a Bridge to Peace" in *Windows to World's Religions* (ed. Arvind Sharma), articles for the *Common Ground News* and I am one of the editor's and contributor's to the book *On Spirituality: Essays from the Third Shii Muslim Mennonite Christian Dialogue*.